Monday, April 04, 2011


“Defeat should never be a source of discouragement but rather a fresh stimulus” ~ Robert South

Many of my friends are writers and rejection is a big part of their lives. Mine too. Last week, I heard good news from one writer friend, but bad news from many more. One friend, who has over 100 books published by a large New York publishing house, had someone chosen over him for a significant award. Even with all those publishing credits under his belt it still stings.

When we fail or when someone else is chosen over us, it is easy to be discouraged. When we hope and pray for something or someone and the circumstances just get worse, it is easy to be discouraged. Believe me, I know. When we do our best and our best isn’t good enough, it is so very easy to be discouraged.

It is during these times that we have to change our filter—our thought process. I can allow discouragement to swallow me up or I can refuse to let it beat me.

We all have that ability, but we must be stubborn enough—brave enough—to stand.

If my writing is rejected in one place, I’ll send it to three other places and then get busy writing something new. If I’m praying about something or someone and it seems that the situation is getting worse, I get stubborn and pray more. If someone else is chosen over me, I start looking for the better things coming my way and make sure I’m adequately prepared and trained.

Remember this, discouragement is just a feeling. It isn’t a fact. Don’t be defeated. Stand up and move forward.


Linda O'Connell said...

You and I have much in common, not the least of which is publication in some of the same CS books (12 for me). I wholeheartedly embrace and preach your philosophy. Hope to meet you at the MWG conference this weekend.
Linda O'Connell http://lindaoconell,

Joy Keeney said...

Thank you...this is just what I needed today!!

Linda Lou Rogers Averitt said...

Thank you girl, I needed this and will share it tomorrow in sales meeting:)

BECKY said...

Thanks, Linda! This is something we all need to hear from time to time! See you at the conference!

Linda O'Connell said...

How did the master's class go? It was so good to meet you in person. Please keep in touch.

Vicki Rocho said...

What a lovely thought! Thanks for a great session at MWG this weekend!

aka The Doppleganger ;)

Cozy in Texas said...

This is a great post. The way I see it, if my first attempts hadn't been rejected, I wouldn't have pushed to improve my writing. I'm enjoying the journey.