Sunday, January 25, 2009


This is an interesting tree in Liss, England. It is hollow in the middle. Like the one the Keebler Elves live in! You can actually go inside it, look up and see the sky. It is empty, but life thrives.

I think of that tree when I feel I've failed. That same kind of emptiness possesses my soul.

Josh Foliart pointed out that when Jesus changed Simon's name to Peter, meaning rock, he was actually prophesying Peter's destiny.

Think about that. Jesus knew Peter would fail him. Deny him. And yet, that would not change Peter's destiny.

When we fail, we feel hollow, but feeling has nothing to do with destiny. Nothing changes. The only thing that makes failure good is how we use it.

Instead of turning inward pitying and loathing ourselves, we must pick ourselves up and learn from it. Then use that experience to connect and help others.

Just like this tree, we have should have nothing to hide. We should welcome others to walk inside us and see that it is possible to thrive no matter what happens because our life source is Jesus.

We may fail, but love never fails. Our destiny, our purpose, remains intact and strong.

Thursday, January 01, 2009


Oprah Winfrey said a new year is another chance to get it right.

I prefer to think that each new day is another chance to get it right. Whatever "it" is for you, there is new hope for each new day.

On my writing blog, Daydreaming On Paper, I encourage my readers to make goals instead of resolutions, because if we fail in keeping a resolution there is an element of defeat and/or shame. To fall short of a goal just means we have to keep trying. Hope is still within reach.

Think about 2009:

1. What do you want it to look like as far as you are concerned?

2. What would you like to accomplish?

3. What needs to happen in order to accomplish this?

If you want to enhance your life, help others. This is a worthy goal to focus on. Ask yourself:

1. What do I care about--really care about--what makes me "pound the table?"

2. Is there a person or cause that I could help?

3. What can I do to make a positive impact?

I believe if we concentrate on the last three questions our personal quality of life will be beyond good. When I speak at retreats I have an exercise that illustrates this point:

I ask for three volunteers. Two stay up front with me and one goes to the back. I have one woman look at her belly button, the other looks straight ahead, and the lady in back moves somewhere in the audience and stays there.

Then I instruct the woman looking at her belly button to go and find the lady in the audience, but she cannot take her eyes off her belly button.

She tries but only succeeds to run into a lot of tables.

Then I ask the lady looking straight ahead to find her. Of course she walks right to her.

My point is that as long as we keep looking up and helping others we will find our way easier than if our focus is primarily on ourselves.

If our goals include helping others, we will reach them, and much more.